A relationship is a connection. The goal of every relationship is growth. Growth that applies to all spheres of a connection. It becomes improved, we invest in it, and it nurtures us...
A person with whom you are starting to build a kind of relationship, friendly, partnership, gives you a hand... You went through a lot of challenges with that person, tried to overcome all the fears that you carry in your suitcase of wishes. Until the moment you entered into that relationship, you were one, and then you change. With an outstretched hand, change is for the better. You open up your secrets, pains, insecurities, you become smaller than your ego. The soul is in the hand of the other hand, free. In the waterfalls of conversation, express all your doubts and anxieties in order to free yourself from the desires of other people's expectations. It listens to you.
The other hand sees that fight companion in you, towards the path to common happiness, and then you start walking together. You want that person to reach the finish line too, even though your path is different. On that road full of adventures, you will encounter doubt again, you will stumble, but the hand is there to lift you up. Then joy is created again because you succeeded, the hand is there to clap with you. You doubt that you deserve it, pride moves towards your own values. The hand is there to hug you and show that you are loved and that you actually deserve more than that.
You keep going and make mistakes and move in the direction of self-destruction. The hand shows a forefinger as a warning but does not point at it at you. It is enough for you to understand that it strivies to be your guide only.
However, sometimes you don't see clearly. Your perception is clouded, fed by different emotional reactions, so you get angry and move away a little, you break away from that hug, but it is still in the same place. Waiting for you to come back. Then when you see that the path you need to be on is actually on the other side of the intersection, you run to grab that hand again and keep going...
After that, the grip becomes tighter and the hug longer. It is happy and slowly getting from one goal to another, and you follow it even though you may be late for yours. You understand the time zone of the realization of your aspirations and rejoice in the fulfilled wishes of the given hand.
You know you will meet it again to keep walking together.
By believeing in that growth and everything it has, you will have it also, and everything given hand lacks you will build together.
Can't wait to tell it with delight all that you have learned and pass it on to it, so that given hand can experience the same. You are learning together.
Then you listen because your companion also learned something on the journey, which you did not. At that moment you remind it of what you love about it so that it can be able to love it too. Over time, your love grows because you have taught the other party to love itself, and through that you have come to love your personality more.
The given hand of friendship is its pillar, and the foundation for the beginning of every other relationship.
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