They say that we chose family in the past life and friends in this one. There are several types of connections and relationships. This is one of the most honest and free Being in a relationship is a need. The need to give and receive, the need for community, love for yourself, and others. The purpose of a relationship should not be to make up for a lack, but rather mutual growth through the realization of potential. This applies to both, partner and friendship relationships. It's all love, just a different kind of love.
Friends are there to guide you when you lose your direction, to show you when you're wrong, to support you when you're wrong.
To listen to you when you talk, to be silent with you when you run out of words. They are that family you choose, and love equally.
The biological family can cause pain, while this one doesn't, it understands the most because oftentimes it knows you best. It's free, unconditional and wild. With it, a new version of you is created, real and honest. You often turn to them first because you bypassed all established norms, did many crazy things, explored the most beautiful destinations together, laughed until you were exhausted, cried until you were dry. When you think that a story has been told so many times, a friend always has a new version of developing a theory, because wisdom is never enough. Together you suppressed the bad sides of vanity, prejudice, jealousy and selfishness. You fought to make it disappear because you strived to be better and build the unfathomable and unique.
Friends provide that support that is not asked for but unconditionally received, because a friend knows. A friend feels. So many times you felt together.
If someone were to read the messages, you and your friends would probably have to change your identity, and if they were to listen to the conversations, they would wish they were deaf.
But there is something in friendship that helped you discover a new you, that taught you to love, trust, share, grow. That something which gave you strength when weakness chased it away, that taught you to see when you were blind, that gave you an incentive to continue, that bound you unconditionally and revealed values you didn't even know you had.
Build with friends, that something, because they are an asset that millions really cannot replace. We always remember a person by how made us feel. That feeling in friendships is supported by sincerity and motivated by love. Friends are your mirror, so try to like that reflection. Choose them carefully, but first make sure you like yourself. When others get to know them, they will know that they are the ones who make you better version than yesterday's, and worse than tomorrow's.
So take care of your friends as they take care of you.
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