Cocaine is the oldest drug known to mankind. Thanks to its stimulating effects on the body, it creates a form of addiction. In medicine, it was often used as an anesthetic.
Another great addiction that can also significantly affect our existence is the addiction to emotions.
The pleasure centers located in the brain are subject to various forms of addiction. Unfortunately, the brain does not have the ability to distinguish good from bad influences that create the need for constant stimulation. This also includes sugar, alcohol, nicotine and even sex. Maybe the best example would be a social media influence which is created with that purpose.
One addiction can be compensated by another. Cocaine addicts are often treated with adrenaline sports such as skydiving. It is important to replace the dose that the body is looking for, which is stimulated by the pleasure center in the brain.
Emotions can beautify life and cause positive effects, but also create patterns that are negative, for us. These patterns are not visible and are deep in the subconscious, which is why we don't control them, we just let them lead us.
Just as cocaine was a substitute for anesthesia, so there are numb emotions. Those emotions are not liberated and therefore manifest themselves through different forms of behavior.
All these patterns arise mainly in early childhood, through what we perceive and feel, or do not feel in the family and environment.
A common example in the family is abuse, which is later transferred to different relationships. Abuse can be both emotional and physical. It's just a different kind of pain. If someone hurts you physically, it affects the emotional side of the person's personality, and therefore the mind, while on the contrary, abuse on a mental level causes emotional pain that manifests itself in the form of stress, and then an illness occurs. You would think that what is repeated as a pattern is something you don't want, but actually your body has accepted it as a habit and continues on that path. It needs a dose.
If by growing up we felt a lack of love, we will often get attached to emotionally unavailable people and we will often seek validation of our value from others. We will have the need to prove ourselves, so that someone could love us. In relationships, there is an increase in insecurity, reduced self-confidence, devaluation. Most often, one enters into a relationship with a manipulator. It can be a manipulator in an emotional relationship as well as in a business environment. It boils down to the relationship between a superior and a subordinate. Emotional destruction is the result of both relationships, and the cause is psychological or physical abuse where a person begins to take unconscious responsibility for actions for which is not responsible. Nothing is ever good enough for the manipulator and the victim looks for ways to earn love. Expectations were not met again.
Dependence on crumbs of love, constant seeking of attention, proving of value to narcissistic personality disorders, leads to relationships that are destructive.
There is an inextricable connection in the emotional agreement of the subconscious and repeated doses.
Unfortunately, hardly anyone here is aware of their actions.
Parents are not aware of how much they influence the child with their example, words and actions. As such, the child continues to develop and grow with it. When a pattern is established from childhood, it continues to feed itself. It is then transferred to the next relationship, emotional, business, friendship.
Addictive relationships exist everywhere and boil down to possessiveness, manipulation, belittling or controlling. Due to functioning according to the principle of success-reward-satisfaction, a person is fulfilled at times and feels enthusiastic. However, it is not long-lasting. It is only a short-lived moment and then when the dose wears off, the side effect is the opposite emotion. Just as cocaine can possess us by creating addiction or numbing emotions, so people have the ability to create the same effect with their actions.
The search for a dose of the formed pattern is deeply subconscious. We must reach the layers of the mind that are invisible and yet so powerful. We become addicted to a life that we don't like, but the body appeals to the mind because it was taught that way in the past.
The good news is that everything is subject to change and nothing has to be permanent.
It is true that we can be dependent on everything because our mind creates a safe zone in early childhood, and a child strives for safety and refuge.
Become an observer of your old patterns and created emotions and do not participate in deepening them. It could be isolated by various methods, then it become weaker and eventually disappear. We must kill our old sources of suffering and pain in order to create space for the creation of new joyful moments..
Make an effort to create a healthy haven for your child in order to create a prerequisite for happiness in all aspects of life and future relationships.
You owe it both to your inner child and to the one you will raise.
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